just a queer human trying to break down body and sex taboos

PLEASURE FOR THE SAKE OF PLEASURE

The lack of education on the functions of AFAB (assigned female at birth) bodies failed me. I have felt ashamed, stigmatised and embarrassed of my body for most of my adolescent and adult life. I spent years thinking my genitals were abnormal for the labia minora extended past the labia majora. I spent my whole adolescence confused, embarrassed and anxious about the white substance that would appear in my pants pretty much every day. When it came to sexual pleasure, I didn’t just feel disappointed I couldn’t reach orgasm, I felt deeply ashamed.

 

The appearance of my vulva, the vaginal discharge and my experience of anorgasmia are not conditions I should have ever been made to feel ashamed or anxious about. In fact, it is normal for the labia minora to extend past the labia majora (Enright, 2019). Discharge is a normal function of the vagina’s self-cleaning process. And anorgasmia is experienced by an estimated 5-10% of women (Enright, 2019). I was not alone in my experiences, my body was not wrong, but the cultural context in which these conditions co-existed left me stigmatised.